There She Goes!

 

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There was a time when I had slept many nights; dreaming about this day, the day that I pictured several times like a reel playing in my thought machine; and to my rage of emotions, this day is going to happen soon when I came to know she is going to visit my town for few days and my only chance to see her again for real after ages. I was so delighted to meet her, to gaze in her sparkling eyes, to disappear in her beauty, to stroll around the streets. Exhilaration started filling inside me as the days reaching close.

Have you ever had that someone special, meeting to them feels like time slips away like smooth sand in the fist, where hours feel like minutes when talks have no end, when you enjoy each others company so much that the world encompassing melt in, when everything falls perfectly at the moment. She is this to me.

It was Thursday, She is going to be here soon. Hours were ticking slow, my excitement is churning my stomach. It was 6 in the morning I was sitting on a sofa and suddenly I find my self smiling ear to ear to my thoughts contemplated on her. I was keeping a check on time and simultaneously laying a plan to meet her. Ticking off each passing hour making me nervous its been moons since I have seen her. I decided to make a call to calm my pulsating nerves. I could feel the unbalancing volcanic eruptions of emotions ready to burst out. I collected myself before finally deciding to call her. Her phone was busy, I tried two-three times but the only voice I heard on a repeat is of the machine "the person you're trying to reach is currently busy please try again". 

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"Walking" a Walkthrough For You!!

During the lockdown, the natural thing left for me to be in motion was an occasional run and a regular walk. The regular strolling made clarity in my thoughts, untangled my emotions, and all of a sudden I was feeling the resonating positivity. This sense of achieved calmness, ecstasy, and gained second wind encouraged me to dig deeper into it. A simple walk made me learn a lesson for life, and my wandering mind starts looking for an answer. I began my search, start looking at some fascinating research papers, and learned a new mind-body connections. Hey readers, in this blog you'll read about how a simple walk could solve some most consequential problem of your life. How a walk could help if your mind is stuck in neutral, and can manage your emotional bursts of lockdown. 

Walking 

What is it about walking, in particular, that makes it so amenable to thinking? The answer begins with changes to our chemistry. When we go for a walk, the heart pumps faster, circulating more blood and oxygen not just to the muscles but to all the organs—including the brain. 

Our Mind On Walking

Walking on a regular basis promotes new connections between brain cells, shed off the usual withering of brain tissue that comes with age, increases the volume of the hippocampus (a brain region crucial for memory), and elevates levels of molecules that both stimulate the growth of new neurons and transmit messages between them.

Tempos Of Walking

I love to walk with earphones plugged in, listening to playlist according to mood. One morning I was preparing myself for a run, feeling off tracks, inert, and depleted. I hit myself with beats of Rocky IV Going Distances, I remember that morning I broke my personal best. Consequently, I found the connection between mind, mood, and body.

The way we move our bodies changes the nature of our thoughts, and vice versa. Psychologists who specialize in exercise music have quantified: listening to songs with high tempos motivates us to run faster, and the swifter we move, the quicker we prefer our music. 

But Walking at our own pace creates an unadulterated feedback loop between the rhythm of our bodies and our mental state that we cannot experience as easily when we’re jogging at the gym, or running outdoor, or any other kind of locomotion. When we stroll, the pace of our feet naturally oscillates with our mood and the cadence of our inner speech; at the same time, we can actively change the pace of our thoughts by deliberately walking more briskly or by slowing down.

''Walk'' it Out

Take some time out for a walk, and soon it will become a habit. Walking will provide an escape from a daily hustle-bustle of life and also calm your ever racing mind. Just a regular, stress-free motion of your body will do wonder to you. You will have time for self-talk which will change the way you look at yourself and it will sequentially elevate your self-confidence.  

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References 

• https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3339577/
• https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20890449/
• https://www.pnas.org/content/108/7/3017.abstract
• https://www.pnas.org/content/108/7/3017.abstract

Survival Of The Friendliest

 

Why we should devote as much time to our friendships as we do to exercising and eating well? How friends contribute just as much to your health, including your immune and cardiovascular systems, quality of sleep, and cognitive functioning. Welcome; readers, in this blog you will discover some astounding facts of friendship but before digging into the blog, please follow, it keeps me moving.

F•R•I•E•N•D•S

A new field of science is revealing that social connection plays a vital role in our health. On average, people have only four very close relationships, and very few people can sustain more than six. But the effect of these few core relationships extends beyond our social lives, influencing our health on the very molecular level- from our immune system to our cardiovascular system.

What is the Most Misunderstood thing about friendship?

Very few people are aware of the link between social relationships and health. Studies have found that Friendship can actually change your cardiovascular system, your immune system, your sleep cycle, and your mental health. You may be wondering how something that is outside could affect your inner health. We thought of loneliness as this difficult emotion, but just an emotion. And we think of friends as this lovely thing, but it is actually a matter of life and death. And there's this evolutionary drive to connect. People think all the time about competition and survival of the fittest, but really it's survival of the friendliest.

Is there Friendship in other species?

Evolutionary Biologists discovered the relationship between the species that was distinctive from the usual. It has been found that dolphins, and elephants, and horses, and zebras, and hyenas and all kinds of species have something that looks like friendship. Even the Fishes have found to differentiate between familiar fishes and different fishes; which looks like what goes in their brain is cognitively different toward similar species. 

Does gender play a role in friendships?

The standard line is that women do friendship face-to-face and men do it side by side, meaning women spend their time talking and men do things together. And there's truth to that, but when you ask men how much they value friendship, their answers would be the same, for the most part. The similarities are greater than the differences between men and women.

Is social media helping or hurting our friendships?

Friendship is alive and well in the age of social media. In terms of relationships and connectivity and networks, it's positive. The place where it is hard on relationships is when you're face-to-face and instead of looking at your friends, you're looking at your phone. Looking at a person face-to-face, in person, your brain responds differently even if you look at that same person on a screen, and certainly if you're online and not looking at their face. There's all this talk about the word "friend" being devalued by social media, really that's not true. We know who our really good friends are, whether we're online with them or offline. Talking or chatting doesn't make a difference when it comes to the feeling of comfort and warmth that friendship could provide. And especially in Pandemic social platforms have given the comfort of connectedness.

How Friendship Improve Health?

You must have come across to the infamous saying that man is a social animal. Historically during the evolution from homohabillis to homosapiens humans survived because they lived in a closed community which helped them to hunt, survive and breed. Likewise, our 'primitive mind' learned to live and thrive socially. Sometimes days feel like a void of darkness, you feel sluggish and depressed, it's exactly where friends could be a real help if you allow them to. When you feel depressed or find yourself emotionally weak your cortisol level drops which manages the metabolism, immunity, inflammation response and stress. In Contrary, when you hang out with friends body releases dopamine which is simply called happy hormones which makes you feel good. In this pandemic, when days have become monotonous and there's not much to do, call your friends if you had not and remind them the time of your life. 

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References 

• https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4045505/
• https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6125010/#:~:text=From%20psychological%20theories%20to%20recent,depressive%20symptoms%2C%20mitigate%20posttraumatic%20stress
• http://sociology.iresearchnet.com/sociology-of-gender/gender-and-friendship/

FOMO and How Its Affecting You

Have you ever examined yourself, swiping through the Instagram stories and kind of thoughts crossing in your mind? If these thoughts are making you anxious, frightened, or depressed you have landed on the right page.

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What is FOMO?

FOMO or Fear Of Missing Out is a refers to a feeling or perception that others are having more fun, or living a better life or experiencing better things that you are. It involves a deep sense of envy and affects self-esteem. Oxford Dict. defines it as 'anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media'.

History of FOMO

The first paper on the Fear of Missing Out—FOMO, the ailment of our cultural moment—was written back in the year 2000 by a marketing strategist named Dan Herman in the journal of brand management. Now, after a long incubation period, FOMO is suddenly ubiquitous. Studies estimate that around 70 per cent of all adults in developed countries suffer from the creepy, sometimes all-consuming feeling that something’s happening and they’re not a part of it.

According to Anita Sanz, a clinical psychologist, FOMO is historically linked to our survival. Missing out on a food or water source, for example, could be the difference between life and death. the information we know isn't vital but it still triggers a negative mental response.

FOMO in Contemporary World

Present-day FOMO is anxiety you experience in missing out the fun and interesting things.

Social media has fed into these feelings and turned it into an epidemic. It certainly doesn’t help your anxiety when you’re constantly being presented with proof that things are constantly happening even when you’re not around

FOMO is an immense part of our social lives and is continually perpetuated by social media. Each post, each tweet, each snap posted on any social media platform contributes heavily to the anxiety we feel. The more we browse, the more we feel left out. 

In the context of India where there's a huge change in data consumption after the cheaply available plans, it simultaneously increased the teenagers' engagement to these social media platforms like never before, constantly feeding the mind with entertainment, spending too much time on social media disconnect them from the real world, also being exposed to online bullying, being harassed or annoyed by some stranger.

Prolonged exposures to this turn into anxiety, severely affecting brain development and inducing emotional weakness.

Overcoming the Fear of Missing Out

You can use FOMO to your advantage actually. If done healthily it can actually motivate you to get out and socialize. This is productive only if you cut out the term “fear.” Fear is involuntary. This means we cannot control this response — we can simply hope to overcome it.

•Practice acceptance.

•Remind yourself it's just the part of the whole picture

•Ask yourself what it is you're really feeling 

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